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English Matters This is Susan David ´s latest newsletter: Hi B24 class, I’m a major advocate of validating one’s own emotions. How you feel is how you feel. You shouldn’t judge yourself for your feelings. They are neither good nor bad—they just are. Your feelings reflect your emotional response to the world. However, it’s important not to confuse your feelings with reality itself, or to let them dictate your actions. This is what I mean when I encourage people to see their emotions as data, not directives . Think of them as one data point among many to consider as you move forward. Imagine that you’re in a staff meeting. You’re trying to make a point about an upcoming project, but a colleague cuts you off and moves on to another topic. You feel disrespected, and depending on your mood and personality, you might sulk or lash out. Voila: You’ve been hooked by your emotions . They’re running the show, pulling you along after them. When your feelings threaten to take the w...